Saturday, January 28, 2012
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Thursday, January 5, 2012
three kinds of love
1. I am for you. You are for me. 50-50- not even 49 and 51. Complete balance. -LOVE. It is the ultimate for this materialist world to achieve happiness. You know that you are well taken care of and you take care of your partner. There is a perfect bonding.
2. I am for myself. You are for yourself.- COMPROMISE. Here you bet on either your strength or you bet on the other person's weakness. You are together till the time, the other person does not overcome his/her weakness. The day, the other person does that, the bond is finished.
3. I am for you. You are also for you- DEVOTION. Love of the highest form. Very rare to find. Because there is no expectation. It cannot survive in this materialist world. Soon, you would get exasperated and move on. But it is ultimately divine.
Which one is your love? Are you happy with your love? Do you know which one is my love for you?
What is the ultimate test of you being in love?
When your partners happiness or sadness affects you. You are happy or sad in his/her happiness or sadness. When you are affected, you are in bond. That is what differentiates between what is mine and not mine, between where you have a bond or not have a bond. Any relationship, which does not have that bond, no matter how close that relation is, has no meaning, is dead.
Why is it that when you give something of yours to your dear one, you feel happy? But if the same thing gets lost/stolen/taken away, by force from you, you feel sad. It is simply because of your bonding. You do things happily for your dear ones. You give them something and feel happy. Because there is a bond of love. But if it is someone who is unknown to you and that thing of yours goes to that person, you lament for its loss. This is the difference between loved one and unknown one.
Love is a lot like dancing. You just surrender to the music.
2. I am for myself. You are for yourself.- COMPROMISE. Here you bet on either your strength or you bet on the other person's weakness. You are together till the time, the other person does not overcome his/her weakness. The day, the other person does that, the bond is finished.
3. I am for you. You are also for you- DEVOTION. Love of the highest form. Very rare to find. Because there is no expectation. It cannot survive in this materialist world. Soon, you would get exasperated and move on. But it is ultimately divine.
Which one is your love? Are you happy with your love? Do you know which one is my love for you?
What is the ultimate test of you being in love?
When your partners happiness or sadness affects you. You are happy or sad in his/her happiness or sadness. When you are affected, you are in bond. That is what differentiates between what is mine and not mine, between where you have a bond or not have a bond. Any relationship, which does not have that bond, no matter how close that relation is, has no meaning, is dead.
Why is it that when you give something of yours to your dear one, you feel happy? But if the same thing gets lost/stolen/taken away, by force from you, you feel sad. It is simply because of your bonding. You do things happily for your dear ones. You give them something and feel happy. Because there is a bond of love. But if it is someone who is unknown to you and that thing of yours goes to that person, you lament for its loss. This is the difference between loved one and unknown one.
Love is a lot like dancing. You just surrender to the music.
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Wednesday, January 4, 2012
eight lies of mother
8 Lies of A Mother
The story began when I was a child; I was a son of a poor family. We did not even have enough food. When ever meal times came, mother would often give me her portion of rice. While she was removing her rice into my bowl, she would say "Eat this rice, son. I'm not hungry."
That was Mother's First Lie.
When I was growing up, my persevering mother gave her spare time to go fishing in a river near our house, she hoped that from the fish she caught, she could gave me a little bit of nutritious food for my growth. After fishing, she would cook some fresh fish soup, which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the rest of the fish, which was still on the bone of the fish I had eaten. My heart was touched when I saw that. I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her. But she immediately refused and said "Eat this fish, son. I don't really like fish."
That was Mother's Second Lie.
Then, when I was in Junior High School...... to fund my studies, mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-match boxes that would need to be stuck together. It gave her some money to cover our needs. As the winter came, I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awake, supported by a little candlelight and with perseverance she would continue the work of sticking some used-match boxes. I said, "Mother, go to sleep, it's late, tomorrow morning you still have to go to work.” Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep, dear. I'm not tired."
That was Mother's Third Lie.
The final term arrived..... ..Mother asked for leave from work in order to accompany me. While the sun was starting to shine strongly, my persevering mother waited for me under the heat for several hours. As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished, mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a cup of tea that she had brought in a flask. Seeing my mother covered with perspiration, I at once gave her my cup and asked her to drink too. Mother said "Drink, son. I'm not thirsty! "
That was Mother's Fourth Lie.
After the death of my father due to illness, my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent. She had to fund our needs alone. Our family's life was more complicated. No days without suffering. Our family's condition was getting worse, a kind uncle who lived near our house assisted now and then. Our neighbors often advised my mother to marry again. But mother was stubborn and didn't take their advice; she said "I don't need love."
That was Mother's Fifth Lie.
After I had finished my studies and got a job, it was the time for my old mother to retire. But she didn't want to; she would go to the market place every morning, just to sell some vegetables to fulfill her needs. I, who worked in another city, often sent her some money to help her, in fulfilling her needs, but she would not accept the money. At times, she even sent the money back to me. She said "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.
After graduating with a Bachelors Degree, I then continued to do a Masters Degree. It was funded by a company through a scholarship program. I finally worked in the company. With a good salary, I intended to bring my mother to enjoy her life in Gulf. But my lovely mother didn't want to bother her son. She said to me, "I’m not use to."
That was Mother's Seventh Lie.
In her old age, mother got stomach cancer and had to be hospitalized. I, who lived miles away, across the ocean, went home to visit my dearest mother. She lay in weakness on her bed after having an operation. Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep thought. She tried to spread her smile on her face...but it was a noticeable effort. It was clear that the disease had weakened mother's body. She looked so frail and weak. I stared at my mother with tears flowing. My heart was hurt,... so hurt, seeing my mother in that condition. But mother with the little strength she had, said "Don't cry, my dear. I'm not in pain."
That was Mother's Eighth and Last Lie. After saying her eighth lie, my Dearest mother closed her eyes forever
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
shayari
Kisi Ne Kaha Phool Se Ki,
Mujhko Bata tu Aaj Tak kyon Khilta Raha,
Tune To Di Sabko
Khushbu Tujhko kya Milta Raha?
Phool Ne Muskura Kar Kaha ,
Abhi Tu Nadan Hai .
Jiwan K Sachey Pyar Se ,
Abhi Tu Anjan Hai .
Dene K Badle Kuch Lena ,
Wo To Ek Karobar Hai .
Jo De Kar Bhi Kuch Na Mange,
Wo Hi Sacha Pyar hai
Mujhko Bata tu Aaj Tak kyon Khilta Raha,
Tune To Di Sabko
Khushbu Tujhko kya Milta Raha?
Phool Ne Muskura Kar Kaha ,
Abhi Tu Nadan Hai .
Jiwan K Sachey Pyar Se ,
Abhi Tu Anjan Hai .
Dene K Badle Kuch Lena ,
Wo To Ek Karobar Hai .
Jo De Kar Bhi Kuch Na Mange,
Wo Hi Sacha Pyar hai
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